A lot of people who see me for FEARS and PHOBIAS tell me that the issue runs in their family and that they inherited it.
Now this is in fact TRUE
BUT
It is also FALSE!
How so? How can it be BOTH?
Well it is in fact TRUE, because the issue DOES probably run in their family and it can FEEL like they inherited it.
This is most likely because both them and their families DO have the same issue and have also FELT like it for as long as they can remember.
But it is also FALSE.
It is FALSE because as a baby you are only BORN with 2 fears
The fear of FALLING & the fear of LOUD noises
If you are holding a baby and sit down suddenly, their arms will fly up in the air, it is a natural reflex they are born with as they will feel like they are FALLING, and they will probably cry too… until they get used to it.
They will also jump if they hear a LOUD noise for the first time, again it is a natural reflex they were born with as loud, UNUSUAL noises will alert the sub conscious that they may be in danger and again, they will probably cry. But, if it is a loud noise that happens frequently in their surroundings, their brain will get used to it and it won’t react after a while.
Both these situations will initiate the fight or flight reflex from one of the earliest parts of our sub conscious mind called the Amygdala. Because FALLING and LOUD noises mean the body is PROBABLY at risk.
But the rest, the rest of all the other things we are now frightened of is LEARNT, we will have LEARNT to be frightened of spiders, frightened of the dark, frightened of flying…
As a child (usually 0 – 7 years old) we learn from the people around us, if they react, we react.
If they show that they are frightened we learn that, that THING is something to be frightened of so we store the memory for the future, so that THING doesn’t harm us.
So that’s it, you are running an old programme that was probably set up before you were 7 years old and you probably LEARNT it from someone else, who also LEARNT it before, they were 7 years old too!
So now that you know that, to STOP feeling frightened, it is JUST mind over matter you are running an OLD outdated programme that you LEARNT, and you DON’T need it anymore.
But, if that’s not going to work, I can recommend a very GOOD Therapist! 😉
